- 1. Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski is a groundbreaking exploration of female sexuality that seamlessly blends scientific research with practical insights, empowering women to understand and embrace their sexual well-being. The book delves into the complexities of women's sexual experiences, emphasizing that there is no 'normal' when it comes to desire and that each individual's journey is unique. Nagoski highlights the importance of understanding the dual control model of sexual response, which includes both the 'accelerator' and the 'brake'—factors that enhance or inhibit sexual arousal, respectively. She challenges societal myths about sex and encourages readers to cultivate a sense of sexual self-acceptance, emphasizing that external pressures and unrealistic standards can often distort one's relationship with their body and sexuality. By offering a compassionate and science-based perspective, Nagoski provides women with the tools to navigate their desires, enhance intimacy, and cultivate a fulfilling sexual life, ultimately fostering a deeper connection with themselves and their partners.
What does the 'dual control model' refer to?
A) Conscious and unconscious desires
B) Physical and emotional responses
C) Sexual excitation and inhibition systems
D) Left and right brain functions
- 2. What does 'nonconcordance' mean in sexual response?
A) Body and mind are in sync
B) Partners want different things
C) Physical arousal doesn't match mental arousal
D) Emotional and physical needs align
- 3. What is the 'pleasure gap'?
A) Time between arousal and orgasm
B) Difference in libido levels
C) Gap between desire and action
D) Difference in orgasm frequency between men and women
- 4. What does Nagoski say is the purpose of sex?
A) Relationship maintenance
B) Reproduction only
C) Stress relief
D) Pleasure and connection
- 5. What are 'brakes' in the dual control model?
A) Factors that inhibit sexual response
B) Physical barriers to sex
C) Factors that accelerate arousal
D) Emotional blocks
- 6. What is 'spectatoring'?
A) Observing yourself during sex
B) Being a passive participant
C) Watching pornography
D) Comparing yourself to others
- 7. How does stress affect sexual response?
A) It activates the brakes
B) It only affects men
C) It always increases desire
D) It has no effect
- 8. What is 'erotic intelligence'?
A) Knowledge of sexual techniques
B) Ability to attract partners
C) Experience with multiple partners
D) Understanding your unique sexuality
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