Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
- 1. Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski is a groundbreaking exploration of female sexuality that seamlessly blends scientific research with practical insights, empowering women to understand and embrace their sexual well-being. The book delves into the complexities of women's sexual experiences, emphasizing that there is no 'normal' when it comes to desire and that each individual's journey is unique. Nagoski highlights the importance of understanding the dual control model of sexual response, which includes both the 'accelerator' and the 'brake'—factors that enhance or inhibit sexual arousal, respectively. She challenges societal myths about sex and encourages readers to cultivate a sense of sexual self-acceptance, emphasizing that external pressures and unrealistic standards can often distort one's relationship with their body and sexuality. By offering a compassionate and science-based perspective, Nagoski provides women with the tools to navigate their desires, enhance intimacy, and cultivate a fulfilling sexual life, ultimately fostering a deeper connection with themselves and their partners.
What does the 'dual control model' refer to?
A) Left and right brain functions
B) Physical and emotional responses
C) Conscious and unconscious desires
D) Sexual excitation and inhibition systems
- 2. What does 'nonconcordance' mean in sexual response?
A) Physical arousal doesn't match mental arousal
B) Emotional and physical needs align
C) Partners want different things
D) Body and mind are in sync
- 3. What is the 'pleasure gap'?
A) Gap between desire and action
B) Time between arousal and orgasm
C) Difference in orgasm frequency between men and women
D) Difference in libido levels
- 4. What does Nagoski say is the purpose of sex?
A) Stress relief
B) Pleasure and connection
C) Relationship maintenance
D) Reproduction only
- 5. What are 'brakes' in the dual control model?
A) Factors that accelerate arousal
B) Factors that inhibit sexual response
C) Emotional blocks
D) Physical barriers to sex
- 6. What is 'spectatoring'?
A) Observing yourself during sex
B) Being a passive participant
C) Watching pornography
D) Comparing yourself to others
- 7. How does stress affect sexual response?
A) It activates the brakes
B) It only affects men
C) It has no effect
D) It always increases desire
- 8. What is 'erotic intelligence'?
A) Knowledge of sexual techniques
B) Experience with multiple partners
C) Understanding your unique sexuality
D) Ability to attract partners
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